I wasn’t readyyyyy!!!

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One of my favorite comedians is Kevin Hart. He has a lot of funny sayings and this one is one of my faves. Well anyways I thought that it would be perfect with this post because I definitely WAS NOT ready for love and Godly relationships.

Song of Solomon 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe-and you’re ready.

As I read this scripture last week for a daily devotional, it hit me like a ton a bricks because I never understood why I would never be fully open and vulnerable while dating and vice versa. There seemed to be a wall up on both sides and an emptiness that would never become filled. My understanding of what true love was ❤️ and how to love was not something that I was really taught in details growing up. It was something that I saw on some occasions and mimicked but did not truly grasp it. I also did not love myself in the manner that God wanted me to and that really led to so many heartaches and disappointments. I got fed up with all of the of the dead end relationships and emptiness. Once I started desiring more of God by studying His word and understanding what love looks like, my heart began to soften up and began to be healed. My heart had to become broken in order for my transformation to begin. This was not a quick fix healing process because I was carrying sooooooo much baggage and didn’t even realize it. It’s taken YEARS to get to the point that I am at now. The thoughts about my past hurts don’t shake my emotions and feelings up like they did before. Understanding and being obedient to God’s word will help you make better decisions and will lead you down the right path.

Here are some tips to become open to God’s L❤️ VE:

SPEND TIME IN PRAYER THROUGHOUT YOUR DAY. ⌛⏰ 🙏

START A JOURNAL AND JUST SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS. 📖✒

SPEND TIME OUTSIDE LOOKING AT ALL OF GOD’S CREATIONS AND HOW HE PROVIDES FOR ALL CREATION. 🌞⛅🌹🌻🐒 🐶

SLOW YOUR LIFE DOWN & BE STILL. 🛀📵

PRAY FOR SIGNS MEANING PRAY THAT GOD WILL SHOW YOU WHAT YOU’VE BEEN PRAYING FOR. 🙏

LISTEN TO OTHERS. GOD USES OTHERS TO HELP US OR SEND COMFIRMATION.👂

TALK TO GOD AND SHARE YOUR HEART ❤️

APPLY WHAT YOU’VE READ AND LIVE IT OUT AND WATCH THE TRANSFORMATION OCCUR IN YOUR LIFE. 👀

SING THE SONG JESUS LOVES ME 🎤🎶🎶🎵🎵

Now back to the title I wasn’t readyyyy, God revealed to me that I was in no shape or fashion to be in a healthy loving Godly relationship before. I thank God for the time that He has given me to get my heart right and so I can have healthy relationships with everyone (friendships, church family, mentee’s, family etc.) I can tell a major difference in all of my relationships all due to God working in my life and changing my heart. As messed up as my “love” life was, God has used it to be able to share it with you guys to help you out whether you’re married or single. If you’re not healing from your past, you will continue to pour your junk into your new relationships. Take my advice and DON’T do it, it hurts the other person in the end and prolongs your healing and growth process! Be encouraged and continue to seek God in all that you do!  God will reveal when you are healed. If you don’t wait on Him more heartache and being outside of His plan for your life will continue to be the driving source of your self destructive life. It’s best to know if you are READYYYY by doing a heart check with God!

GOD TOOK MY 💔 BROKENNESS AND MADE ME 💓 WHOLE!!!

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‘TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Do you see it? Take a closer look…

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Do others people see it in me? 🙈🙉
Do I see something different in myself? 👀
Am I allowing God to be the head of my life?

Well these are some questions that you should ask yourself when you start to question how far you have come on your journey with God. The IT that I am referring to is change in you that has taken place because you are allowing God to shine through your life. At times we get down on ourselves because we start to feel like we aren’t growing at a certain pace that we “feel” that we should be keeping with. I encourage you to stop ✋, take a deep breath and exhale those feelings. Those are those subtle attack 👊 methods that the enemy will make you believe. You will start to feel like you are going backwards instead of forward, you will be reminded of your past mistakes, you will start to compare yourself to others around you and look at their life, things will trigger old habits and thoughts that once kept you captive to your sin. Please be clear that these will come up when you are trying to grow. The enemy is not going to attack and fight if there’s no real competition to keep God’s Kingdom growing instead of his.

My dear brothers and sisters please look to God and be reminded of your journey thus far. Look at the change that has taken place whether it has brought you closer to God or sin has continued to keep you in bondage. Always look at the positive first and use that to motivate you to keep growing spiritually. Our sin should not keep us from reaching the full potential that God has placed in us. Take my word for it, it’s not worth it! We are all sinners BUT sin should not control our lives. Encourage others to see the positive change in their lives as well because we are called to be the light of the world! Sin = darkness

Matthew 5:14-16 MSG
“Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.

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‘TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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It’s time to reclaim your thrones

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I will be honest, the thought of me ever being married use to scare me because I didn’t truly understand it and appreciate why God created it. Seeing so many different marriages around me break apart from an early age, left a bad taste in my mouth. Not knowing at the time what was going on inside of me, created the mindset of never let that happen to you Candyce and protect your heart. Which is exactly how I approached dating, I had no idea how to explain my actions of pushing guys away, filling those voids and not being vulnerable. I thought it was normal and ok because it was protecting me from what I didn’t want to happen. It’s ok to protect yourself right?!? Like I said in my other post, I met some amazing men but I was not in the right mindset that I should have been in to make it really work and vice versa. I’ve dated guys that were pretty much like-minded in that area which I now understand why we connected. We connected because our brokenness brought us together which created an unhealthy situation. Lots of lessons learned in that area.

It’s so funny how you never see these type of things during the areas of your life, but when you look back… all you can say is WOW THANK YOU GOD FOR THE MATURITY THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN ME!

I never viewed myself as a queen like royalty even though I was crowned Homecoming and Prom Queen. God was trying to remind me and show me how full of Royalty that I was and am. I was so blinded by that at the time and never truly understood the meaning behind being a King and a Queen. What are your thoughts on what a King and Queen is when it comes to how you act? The definition for King & Queen:

King a boy or man who is highly respected and very successful or popular.

Queen a person or a thing personified as a woman considered the best or most important of her kind.

Now lets tie those definitions back into God’s view of His children. We are all royalty because we belong to the Almighty God and Ruler. When we act less than our royalty ability to keep the Kingdom growing, we are showing the world that being a part of THE Royalty Family isn’t that great and worth living as Kings and Queens.

There’s two approaches/outlooks to this topic that came to me:

1. As singles we are called to be a part of the building up of God’s Kingdom just like married couples. We are still Kings and Queens. Our unity is not as one like it is when couples are married, but we are still royalty and are valued. Now, if it’s God’s will for you to become married you two should have the same thoughts and act as Kings and Queens do. This is the time to live out that you belong to THE KING OF KINGS and understand that He has a special purpose for you. You should become the ruler of your heart, body, words, mind and actions etc. with the power of God. That is why we are called Kings and Queens and we should rely on the KING OF KINGS to help us do that and serving only God!

2. When Kings and Queens are married their ruling should be full of purpose and God centered. It’s the unity that God designed so that His Kingdom could grow and reach more. He left specific instructions for marriage and families. As Kings and Queens united in marriage, the focus should be on serving each other and God. When you come together on one accord the power of God is stronger. He designed marriage to be a beautiful thing and we should appreciate and follow His instructions.

*I’m not saying singles can’t have a strong power* Once we come together on one accord, there is so much power that comes from God. We all have the Royalty blood flowing through our bodies but we have to choose to reclaim our thrones by living like it.

I wanted to share how my heart had to be changed in order to fully understand how I am supposed to act as Queen Candyce. I had to go through necessary experiences to reclaim my throne. I challenge you to reflect on your life and present to see if you are living like Royalty whether single or married!!! God has transformed my heart on the idea of marriage and the importance of having a purposeful marriage that includes an incomplete Kingdom Man & Woman that know that God is the center of our lives, and that working together is the only way God’s plan will be executed!!! But most importantly that my shift off of self and onto only God had to take place.My healing process was tailored made for me and has given me so much contentment in my circumstances. Every step in your healing process is vital to the plan and next phase that God has for you. I will be in prayer for you in this area whether you’re married or single, that you seek God first and that He is the very center of your life so that your ministry (your walk/life as a Christian with the Holy Spirit) will grow.

TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!

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