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Do you want the real deal or a knockoff?

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🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪🚪 Settling for imitations of love are like all of these closed doors. You are dancing in the hallways of “bliss” & “happiness” only to realize that you don’t have the right key 🔑 to open any of those doors. All of those doors represent something different in each of our lives. For example, one door could represent a relationship that you have invested so much time and wasted energy that functions outside of the will of God. Another door could be a job that you have but it’s not stretching or growing you into your purpose. Or a door that was closed by God in order to protect you from what you thought you wanted. Whatever these closed doors represent to you is something that you are going to have to take to God in prayer and ask him to show you why they are closed.

When we settle for knock offs, we are telling God that we don’t deserve His best for us and that we are ok with whatever comes our way. If it doesn’t line up with God’s word then it is an imitation and we should have no part of that. Knowing your true worth and value has nothing to do with monetary values and materialistic views, it comes from knowing that Jesus died to save us from these knock offs that fill our hearts with lies.

Romans 5:8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Lies that say you should do whatever you can while you can, you’re only young for a short while so do it, this person really loves you so accept it and love them back even if they are living contrary to God, your biological clock is ticking so hurry up and get a man/woman no matter what his/her view point is of God etc. And the list goes on and on of these imitations. So I’m asking you, do you know what true love is and what does that look like in your life? You have to be careful with those knock offs because they not only will lead to those closed doors everytime but heartache, stress, possible drugs and emptiness just to name a few. Trying to use those knock offs as the real deal will only lead to mediocrity and disappointments. There’s no way the hallway  “bliss” dance will ever supply you with the REAL love that God has for you.

His love will unlock those doors and will never be a knock off! I have been a victim of accepting the knock offs and dancing in the “blissful” hallway thinking that I was really enjoying life and “making things happen”. I had to learn what God’s love really meant and how that looked in my life. Accepting His real love will change your whole approach on life (relationships, attitudes, how you treat people, walking in your purpose, experience joy, eternal gain and kingdom building etc.) Walking through those doors will take you to another level in experiencing God’s love. He will never stop loving us no matter what BUT to understand and feel His love requires the imitations to be thrown out. When you love someone or something you naturally give your best and do not want to mess anything up. Give God your best and share His love to others so they can stop accepting the knock offs.

If you have any comments or questions please leave them in the comments or you can email me at sweetinspirationsbycandyce@gmail.com

Do you know what love means? ❤️

‘TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I wasn’t readyyyyy!!!

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One of my favorite comedians is Kevin Hart. He has a lot of funny sayings and this one is one of my faves. Well anyways I thought that it would be perfect with this post because I definitely WAS NOT ready for love and Godly relationships.

Song of Solomon 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe-and you’re ready.

As I read this scripture last week for a daily devotional, it hit me like a ton a bricks because I never understood why I would never be fully open and vulnerable while dating and vice versa. There seemed to be a wall up on both sides and an emptiness that would never become filled. My understanding of what true love was ❤️ and how to love was not something that I was really taught in details growing up. It was something that I saw on some occasions and mimicked but did not truly grasp it. I also did not love myself in the manner that God wanted me to and that really led to so many heartaches and disappointments. I got fed up with all of the of the dead end relationships and emptiness. Once I started desiring more of God by studying His word and understanding what love looks like, my heart began to soften up and began to be healed. My heart had to become broken in order for my transformation to begin. This was not a quick fix healing process because I was carrying sooooooo much baggage and didn’t even realize it. It’s taken YEARS to get to the point that I am at now. The thoughts about my past hurts don’t shake my emotions and feelings up like they did before. Understanding and being obedient to God’s word will help you make better decisions and will lead you down the right path.

Here are some tips to become open to God’s L❤️ VE:

SPEND TIME IN PRAYER THROUGHOUT YOUR DAY. ⌛⏰ 🙏

START A JOURNAL AND JUST SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS. 📖✒

SPEND TIME OUTSIDE LOOKING AT ALL OF GOD’S CREATIONS AND HOW HE PROVIDES FOR ALL CREATION. 🌞⛅🌹🌻🐒 🐶

SLOW YOUR LIFE DOWN & BE STILL. 🛀📵

PRAY FOR SIGNS MEANING PRAY THAT GOD WILL SHOW YOU WHAT YOU’VE BEEN PRAYING FOR. 🙏

LISTEN TO OTHERS. GOD USES OTHERS TO HELP US OR SEND COMFIRMATION.👂

TALK TO GOD AND SHARE YOUR HEART ❤️

APPLY WHAT YOU’VE READ AND LIVE IT OUT AND WATCH THE TRANSFORMATION OCCUR IN YOUR LIFE. 👀

SING THE SONG JESUS LOVES ME 🎤🎶🎶🎵🎵

Now back to the title I wasn’t readyyyy, God revealed to me that I was in no shape or fashion to be in a healthy loving Godly relationship before. I thank God for the time that He has given me to get my heart right and so I can have healthy relationships with everyone (friendships, church family, mentee’s, family etc.) I can tell a major difference in all of my relationships all due to God working in my life and changing my heart. As messed up as my “love” life was, God has used it to be able to share it with you guys to help you out whether you’re married or single. If you’re not healing from your past, you will continue to pour your junk into your new relationships. Take my advice and DON’T do it, it hurts the other person in the end and prolongs your healing and growth process! Be encouraged and continue to seek God in all that you do!  God will reveal when you are healed. If you don’t wait on Him more heartache and being outside of His plan for your life will continue to be the driving source of your self destructive life. It’s best to know if you are READYYYY by doing a heart check with God!

GOD TOOK MY 💔 BROKENNESS AND MADE ME 💓 WHOLE!!!

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‘TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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growing, Growing, GROWING!!!

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Grow in God before growing a relationship!

Grow in God before growing a relationship!

I remember back when I would bounce back and forth between the idea of marriage and if I wanted to be or not. My indecisiveness caused more confusion and my heart to become hardened to the idea. Dating different guys only reassured my heart that I should not. Instead of using those times to prepare my heart for it, I ran from it and took it for granted. Thinking back on alot of those heartbreaking situations that I experience were due to my heart not being pure and focused on God like I should. Throughout my journey I can say that God is still working on me for the day that if it be His will, I will be married.

I know for a fact that everything that I am going and growing through is preparing me for my purpose whether it be married life or single life. Since I am in my season of singleness, it has been full of service and ministry. I thank God for using me and my gifts to serve. If marriage is in the will of God for my life, I will truly understand and appreciate the preparation and lessons that I need. I was very immature in my thinking before on the thoughts of dating and marriage and I thank God for the maturity that I have gained. Marriage is not about selfish gains and to have the perfect wedding and ring. It’s about having a ministry together and working together to help build God’s kingdom. I know for a fact that whomever I marry MUST be a strong man of God full of purpose because he will have to lead our household. My relationship with God is stronger than ever and he will need to have one stronger than mine. Encouraging each other to keep God first and work together will be the core and foundation of our lives.

Now you are probably wondering what that picture is all about. LOL Funny story, a few years ago the family joke was Candyce are you ever going to get a man? So a couple years ago on vacation we stopped in Pensacola beach and went inside a souvenir shop to get some things. So at the counter there were these little grow a boyfriend  toys. I looked at it and laughed and thought well I guess this is about right LoL! Then I was told this will be as close as you will get to having a boyfriend LoL! That picture

Thinking back on my earlier single life that is the thoughts that I really held onto, I am now grateful for my singleness because I would have been a toxic person in any relationship. I had not grown or received the proper healing from my past hurts which would have destroyed them all. I thank God for placing those men in my life to help grow me up because I did meet great men. So if you are struggling with being single or if you’re in a relationship but you don’t feel like it has a ministry that can be carried out, pray to God for His will to be revealed. As Christians single or married, you are called to help build God’s Kingdom. Make sure you’re doing your part. If you notice in the title of this post I show the word growing in 3 different sizes. I showed that as my growth in thinking about God, courting and marriage! That represents how your way of thinking and actions in God should be. No matter how hard or long that you take, it will be worth it in the end. Keep GROWING, keep PRAYING, keep L♡VING and keep SEEKING GOD’S WILL FOR YOUR LIFE! I will leave you with this scripture Proverbs 16:3

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.
Proverbs 16:3 NIV

TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!
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○●I will add another post about relationships later●○ ☺

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