I will be honest, the thought of me ever being married use to scare me because I didn’t truly understand it and appreciate why God created it. Seeing so many different marriages around me break apart from an early age, left a bad taste in my mouth. Not knowing at the time what was going on inside of me, created the mindset of never let that happen to you Candyce and protect your heart. Which is exactly how I approached dating, I had no idea how to explain my actions of pushing guys away, filling those voids and not being vulnerable. I thought it was normal and ok because it was protecting me from what I didn’t want to happen. It’s ok to protect yourself right?!? Like I said in my other post, I met some amazing men but I was not in the right mindset that I should have been in to make it really work and vice versa. I’ve dated guys that were pretty much like-minded in that area which I now understand why we connected. We connected because our brokenness brought us together which created an unhealthy situation. Lots of lessons learned in that area.
It’s so funny how you never see these type of things during the areas of your life, but when you look back… all you can say is WOW THANK YOU GOD FOR THE MATURITY THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN ME!
I never viewed myself as a queen like royalty even though I was crowned Homecoming and Prom Queen. God was trying to remind me and show me how full of Royalty that I was and am. I was so blinded by that at the time and never truly understood the meaning behind being a King and a Queen. What are your thoughts on what a King and Queen is when it comes to how you act? The definition for King & Queen:
King a boy or man who is highly respected and very successful or popular.
Queen a person or a thing personified as a woman considered the best or most important of her kind.
Now lets tie those definitions back into God’s view of His children. We are all royalty because we belong to the Almighty God and Ruler. When we act less than our royalty ability to keep the Kingdom growing, we are showing the world that being a part of THE Royalty Family isn’t that great and worth living as Kings and Queens.
There’s two approaches/outlooks to this topic that came to me:
1. As singles we are called to be a part of the building up of God’s Kingdom just like married couples. We are still Kings and Queens. Our unity is not as one like it is when couples are married, but we are still royalty and are valued. Now, if it’s God’s will for you to become married you two should have the same thoughts and act as Kings and Queens do. This is the time to live out that you belong to THE KING OF KINGS and understand that He has a special purpose for you. You should become the ruler of your heart, body, words, mind and actions etc. with the power of God. That is why we are called Kings and Queens and we should rely on the KING OF KINGS to help us do that and serving only God!
2. When Kings and Queens are married their ruling should be full of purpose and God centered. It’s the unity that God designed so that His Kingdom could grow and reach more. He left specific instructions for marriage and families. As Kings and Queens united in marriage, the focus should be on serving each other and God. When you come together on one accord the power of God is stronger. He designed marriage to be a beautiful thing and we should appreciate and follow His instructions.
*I’m not saying singles can’t have a strong power* Once we come together on one accord, there is so much power that comes from God. We all have the Royalty blood flowing through our bodies but we have to choose to reclaim our thrones by living like it.
I wanted to share how my heart had to be changed in order to fully understand how I am supposed to act as Queen Candyce. I had to go through necessary experiences to reclaim my throne. I challenge you to reflect on your life and present to see if you are living like Royalty whether single or married!!! God has transformed my heart on the idea of marriage and the importance of having a purposeful marriage that includes an incomplete Kingdom Man & Woman that know that God is the center of our lives, and that working together is the only way God’s plan will be executed!!! But most importantly that my shift off of self and onto only God had to take place.My healing process was tailored made for me and has given me so much contentment in my circumstances. Every step in your healing process is vital to the plan and next phase that God has for you. I will be in prayer for you in this area whether you’re married or single, that you seek God first and that He is the very center of your life so that your ministry (your walk/life as a Christian with the Holy Spirit) will grow.
TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!
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