Day 4: Let me first start off by saying… God has a way of putting you where HE needs you to be and with whom HE needs you to cross paths with. Monday was such a refreshing and fun day. So exactly a year ago when I moved back to Houston, I was asked to join a mentor group for middle school aged kids. I was very reluctant to do it at first. When you have a calling on your life, God is going to place you where He needs you to be even if you aren’t open to it. That’s exactly what He did and I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ MY FIVE STAR FAMILY 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. Not only do we mentor the child, we show them Christ and they get an opportunity to accept Him at a summer camp. My passion and purpose is for young girls that need guidance and godly advice. They need a positive role model in their lives and a listening ear. God designed me to be in this position to do that. I am grateful that He created others to do the same thing. Ok so back to my day, we had a coaches meeting to discuss how we can take things to a whole other level with the kiddos. Afterwards we decided to go to one of my favorite restaurants to hang out and start the week of my birthday celebration. We had a blast and new friendships were created along with the deepening of others. I am so blessed to have such selfless people that I can actually call my friends. Monday was a great day!!!!!
Day 3: The Five Star 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 kick off… Well I’m not going to lie and say that I had the best attitude going into the school. I was totally excited but I wasn’t in the right frame of mind. That happens when the enemy tries to knock you off of your purpose path. So my focus was on the wrong thing. I was caught up in numbers and why I had so many girls which again losing focus on the bigger picture. I was getting frustrated because they were talking too much not listening etc. So I said a quick prayer so I didn’t go off and say the wrong thing that would ruin my ministry. So during our group time I talked to them and stated some things I observed and what needs to change and we were good. They opened up about some things and you guys know about my sensitivity levels rising LoL, it caused me to get a little emotional because God opened my eyes to why I had so many girls and why I had these particular ones. I’m who they need to stand in the gap for them and pray for them. They need so much that only God can give. He is using me to be His vessel. I know that it is not about me. And it amazes me how my perspective has completely flipped. It’s not all about Candyce… It’s about building God’s kingdom by any means necessary. Also let me tell you how sneaky the enemy is… My plan was to go to a Bible study after I left the school. So it was much later than the time I should have left in order to be on time so I was debating if I should go or not. I’ve me learned that when I start questioning things, that’s the enemy trying to block me from hearing a word of God. So I went anyways and y’all when I tell you EVERYTHING that I had been struggling I with and needed God’s answers was talked about. I love it when God works like that because it’s like he is personally taking that moment to speak to you. My heart was full ❤️
Day 2: Giving back is what I have a passion for. So in lieu of me turning 30, I decided to get a group of friends together to go help out at the Houston Food Bank where we packed 1940 backpack buddy meals for students don’t get food over the weekend. We were able to bless them. So let me tell you about my amazing friends, they came out to help and gave their time to help feed someone else. Black is my favorite color so I asked them to wear black with me so we could stick out together LoL. We had a system going we were dancing, singing having a blast while packing food for the less fortunate families. I would recommend getting a group together and help out anyway you can. Ok here’s my sensitivity moment… They decided to show a YouTube video on the backpack buddies program. Oh boy why did they do that? They had me and a couple of my friends in my group (I’m not going to mention any names *cough cough*) all teary eyed. I’m guessing they decided to show us that so we can know the great impact that it has on the community. I just love the kids and kids are my business!! And to top it off we got sponsors from Torchy’s Taco to feed us. There was over 150 volunteers. Oh and being apart of the Houston food bank Young professionals group has helped me to stay involved. I’m on the programming committee so we plan amazing events like our Helpie hour from last night. I challenge you to get involved in your town and make an impact in the lives of others….
Day 6: Started off a little rough which I found out why later on that day. This picture is basically how I spent my whole Saturday at a Tapioca shop. My name was Kenda for the day LOL! I told her my name and I guess she couldn’t spell it but I thought that was too cute! I had a lot of work and things to catch up on. For some reason, I had been feeling less motivated. I was determined to get my fire burning again 🔥 but most importantly ask God why I was feeling this way. OHHHHHHHHH did he show me!!! I just started reading the book Fervent by Priscilla Shirer and it is definitely not a book for a person that is not willing to truly grow their prayer life with God and fight against the schemes of the enemy. So after I finished completing one assignment, I said to myself “oh it’s on sister, let’s do this”. But little did I know that it was EXACTLY the answer to my mysterious passion/drive flame potential burnout. I thought that I had a pretty strong prayer life and I still do but this book has given me more strategies to defeat those moments from the enemy that come up like losing focus and when you lose your passion.
Here is the book and I’ve been journaling for a long time so this is my newest prayer journal along with this amazing book!!! Please go get it and read if you are tired of the enemy being victorious in your life. So after reading the first chapter I realized why my motivation was dim. The attacks that the enemy has designed are so strategic and subtle and if we aren’t made aware of them, we will become defeated by the enemy. I am loving this point of my life and I am so excited about what God is bringing me into. I’m even more thrilled to able to share it with you and bring you along this journey to encourage you to make God the focus of your life.
Passion is the fuel in the engine of your purpose- Priscilla Shirer
If you have lost your excitement and drive for living out your purpose that God created you for, tap back into your main source… God!
Day 5: Family day!!! Where do I begin? Well I’ll start with understanding the true blessing that God gives us with our families. It makes my heart ❤️❤️ smile thinking about all of them. No we are not perfect by any means but love each other dearly. My brother in law was affirmed as Elder at his church and we came to support him. It is such a phenomenal feeling when you can give to others and how God equips you to be able to give without wanting anything in return. I loved being able to see all of my old church family and hugging them. Oh how I miss them and I am even more thankful to hear such encouraging words and love from them. My heart was full yesterday. As you can tell in the picture from above my niece had a volleyball tournament and they won every single game they played the whole weekend! I’m a proud auntie 🙂 of all of my babies.
Here is my big baby that is so excited to FINALLY be taller than me!! Sunday was a great day!!!
At first I didn’t know why I chose this picture but then it came to me. I think I might see my mother in my facial expression LoL! There’s no denying that I’m my mother’s child.
Here’s my twin… I will admit it NOW LOL!! BUT I still think I look like my dad too. Anywho…
Here’s the recap of Day 11: I have learned that when God places someone on your heart, you need to do what He wants you to do because that person or persons really need what you have to say or need that hug etc. Well that’s exactly what I did yesterday. I was able to pass on some wisdom that I was taught by a dear and close person to my heart. As I spent time with this individual, God showed me that He is the same way with us. He helps us when we are in need and He has grace with us. He gives us chances and reveals a new way of doing things. I was in awe of God and His power. I did not take credit for any of it, I know that it’s all God. I am just a vessel and I don’t take that role lightly! Yesterday I was actually very proud of myself and how far I’ve come with God from the areas that I was drowning in before. DELIVERANCE!!! Passing on wisdom and being able to admit faults and struggles speaks volumes to your character. I am forever grateful to God for not giving up on me even when I did 😊😊😊😊😊 .
Day 10: TAKE OVER
I have been blessed to my core today! When you pray for God to take you to another level of intimacy and having Him touch your soul with songs of praise, it gets overwhelming!!! Tears of joy flowed today as I drove to a school listening to a song called “TAKE OVER” by Anthony Evans feat. Tamela Mann. It completely took over me and me surrendering EVERY area of my life to God. I highly recommend this song to you.
Clearly this was before I put the song on LoL!!
So as I get to the school, I always say a prayer for the kiddos that I will be with. And I pray for myself to remain calm and showing Christ at all times. As I said before, I believe that kids can see your heart and if you are genuine. They will tell the honest truth!!! I had a fantastic group today. I played a little game with them called can you guess Ms. C’s age. I got guessing like 18 up to 36. There was 2 girls close and one actually guessed I was 29 and another one said 31. I told them I’ll be 30 in 10 days and they all *GASP*
I wanted to burst out laughing at the little boy that said 18! I had to put my HIGHER PRESCRIPTION GOD-GGLES (God goggles) on for some of the students LOL. But at the end of the day, they turned their behavior around. God always has a way of surprising you with how your react differently when you are walking with Him. I thank God for the growth. I can’t stop saying that, but it’s the truth!! Leaving a lasting memory is what it’s all about. After I left the school I headed home and got ready for the gym. I went to work out and I can totally feel my confidence level rising the more I go there! Then I went to a Bible study that was talking about self-esteem and how we are viewed through Christ. Today has been an emotional day for me for some reason and I am thankful for them because I’ve been in my Father’s lap all day. That’s my favorite place to be! I’ve been experiencing some different feelings lately and I’m not sure if it’s the 30’s creeping in or what. I know God is taking me to higher levels but I’m not sure where. I’m singing TAKE OVER LORD TAKE MY MIND AND MY WILL! I GIVE IT ALL TO YOU AND I NEED YOU MORE…. PRAISE GOD 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏
Day 13: I am very PROUD to announce… I was sleep by 11:30 the night before! And I slept through the night until 6:36 AM. I know that sounds like something mother’s of babies would say, but I felt the joy!
This is how I felt LOL!!!!
Any who…my day 13 turned into a heart breaker 💔. If you really know me, you know that I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE my Houston Texans. Well unfortunately they did not show me that deep love in return yesterday when they lost to the Chiefs. I always knew that I hated losing but yesterday really hurt my heart. I thought to myself that I was just being dramatic but NO I really was frustrated and took it personal.
I know that sounds very strange but it’s a flaw of mine that was brought to the light last night by God. One of my prayers has been for God to show me those flaws in me that need adjusting. I have always hated losing ever since a child and I guess I never really thought of it like I did last night. In the midst of my frustration, I couldn’t think straight and that made me even more upset. I finally said a prayer to calm my nerves and it was almost instantly I could think clearly. It was like a conversation you have with your best friend that says “girl calm yourself down, it’s not that serious and be thankful for how far they came”. At that moment I really had to laugh at myself because I really took it serious like I was JJ Watts or an actual person that is a part of the organization. That made me think, inspite of my flaws and shortcomings, God gives me another chance and it might not be my time to “win” something great like a important football game LoL but look at what I have won and how I win with Christ by my side DAILY. AND that God is still growing me into my purpose. Maybe you are struggling with finding your purpose. Let God reveal who you are and let him fix you into the person he created you to be.
Oh and I was so frustrated last night that I was determined to go workout afterwards to blow off some steam. Well God is something else because I got home, changed quickly and zipped out the door to pull up to a CLOSED GYM! Boy I tell you… He is so funny! I could picture His face and how He was laughing at me but loving me inspite of it all! 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
Day 12: Oh has today been a day of challenges (not in a negative way)! It started off with me actually going to bed at… welp I can’t remember the time and waking up at 6:58 AM. I told myself to go back to sleep and wake up when my alarm went off at 8:15. Which I did for just a few minutes. So I woke up and told myself that I need to start moving because we started a new adult Bible study group rotation and I was not super thrilled about starting it (just being honest) only because I didn’t know what to expect. Boy did God blow my mind this morning in class. I was in the right class and needed to hear exactly what the teacher was teaching on. I’ll share a little bit of it with you guys. We are studying the book of Exodus and started off with Moses and talked about the start of his life. My main take away was how are you allowing the holy spirit to guide you? I did a reflection over my life and my present. I can say that I allow the Holy spirit to lead my life now more so than I have in the past. I have to get out of God’s way and allow Him to keep moving in my life. I have come to far now to turn back. THANK YOU GOD!!
Part two of my day was when I met up with my bestie/sister Moni to go to a women’s ministry kickoff program. It was so what I needed to hear at the perfect moment. We as women have such a negative outlook on other women which causes a great division among us. But it goes much deeper than the surface. We must allow God to work on our core and wear the full armor of God at all times. The enemy wants to destroy you… Don’t let it!!! 💪💪💪💪💪💪 I love talking to Moni and how we encourage each other. She is such a blessing to me and I thank God for all of my sister-friends!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Day 15: Started off very calm and quiet. I worked on a few things and cleaned some more. My quiet time with God was very comforting and I absolutely cherish the time I spend with Him daily. As you can tell from the picture I was on my way out the door for day 2 of my Tight and Right journey to 30. Unfortunately nothing funny happend at the gym other than me putting my actual age in and it actually lowered my HR target zone which meant I was worse off than if I was 30. But no worries I am super motivated now!
Thinking that since I went to workout for 2 days straight I would be exhausted and asleep before 9 o’clock… Ummmmmm so I’m definitely going to stop listening to myself about that because I was up until 1 something. All I do know is I did fall asleep before 2 AM and I was very proud of myself. I knew I had to wake up earlier on Friday but it didn’t help me fall asleep quicker. Before I went to bed I watched one of my favorite shows of all time… MARTIN also thinking I could laugh myself to sleep… WRONG AGAIN! That’s the end of Day 15.
Day 14: Waking up to my alarm that felt like you JUST closed your eyes is not a fun way to start your Friday. I woke up and had my morning time with God which had a reoccurring theme of patience and trust. I know how I am when I do not get enough sleep and so does God. I sometimes deal with fragile children and I am not always as “fragile” as I should be. But today I needed that reminder this morning with my students I had today. We had a wonderful time as always but I felt myself wanting to say things in a not so fragile way. I don’t ever want to be the cause of a kid having a bad memory or a scar from a teacher that hurt their feelings.
As school ended I was debating if I would go workout right after or wait for a couple of hours. I looked at the weather and I decided to go right after work. Today’s workout was a great one and I walked in confidently with a plan and what machines I wanted to use. Soon I’ll be wearing the title Queen of the Gym 👑 LoL I’m just kidding. I feel great and I love the feeling after I work out. Afterwards I decided that I was going to have a relaxing evening. I picked up some food and rented 2 movies from Redbox. In exactly 2 weeks until I turn 30, I have been doing a lot of reflecting which has led me to my ending message. I am so content in this season of my life and I L❤ve how God is showing me things about myself especially as I embark upon this milestone of my life. Enjoying all of these events leading up to my big 3-0 has made it even better AND to share it with each of you special people. But I pray that I am sleep before 1 LoL!!?
Day 18: My day began very chill then out of no where I burst into *cues music*…TURBO CLEANER!!! But this was a different turbo cleaner mode… It was all in my head!!! I had all of these great new ideas on what I wanted to clean and organize but in real life/time I only did a portion 😐 . It made me think about turning 30…as you can tell everything nowadays is making me think about my older age. I wondered if my actions were not going to equal up to my thoughts due to changes in my body. But then I thought to myself, my age is not the deciding factor to my actual work whether I’m pumped about it or not. It’s all about my attitude to keep pushing even when I get tired or unmotivated. So lesson learned…
Day 17: Well I have always said that kids keep you young and on your toes. I am blessed to be able to work with all different age groups of students. And oh was today one of those comical “keep you on your toes” kind of day. If you want to know the honest truth ask a child and they will definitely let you know. I just thank God for all of the kiddos and teaching me more about myself. After yesterday’s TURBO CLEANER MODE failure, I decided to put that back into play but this time plan it out a little bit differently. I’m not going to reveal what it is just yet but know that it’s under construction right now🚧🚧🚧🚧🚧🚧🚧🚧. My only thoughts about age today was I don’t think my body is adjusting well to this age thing because I’m still up all hours of the night. OH I just thought about my first thought of aging today… Well after I washed my face this morning it was dryer than its been before so I’m not sure if that happens once you knock on 30’s door. Ok I’m done LoL!!!
Lesson of the day: Confession time: I have been struggling with spending money on myself. Meaning I find myself nowadays second guessing if I should buy something for myself that is a treat/reward like shoes or clothes. So today I literally debated for hours if I thought I deserved those few items. I’m happy to say that I won and bought a few items for myself. It made me thank God for the growth that I’ve experienced because there was a time when I would just spend money and not think twice about it. That’s definitely a THANK YOU GOD moment. I’ve learned that maturing comes from being deeper in God and not with age. I love giving more to others than myself, which is another THANK YOU GOD moment. Deliverance is what I long for!!! It felt good to treat myself and I know that it won’t happen again for a while LoL!!
I know that you have probably heard that ever so haunting phrase “I’m going to make an example out of you”. For a lot of us, that phrase carried a fearful and demeaning tone/message that was associated with it. Whenever you got in trouble or did something that another person that was in authority disagreed with, they felt that a punishment should follow. That punishment would show other people not to make the same mistake or to not disobey their authority. Either way you look at it, there was something to learn.
The Scripture 1 Timothy 4: 11-14 MSG
11-14 Get the word out. Teach all these things. And don’t let anyone put you down because you’re young. Teach believers with your life: by word, by demeanor, by love, by faith, by integrity. Stay at your post reading Scripture, giving counsel, teaching. And that special gift of ministry you were given when the leaders of the church laid hands on you and prayed—keep that dusted off and in use.
So back to the title. In this sense of “making” an example out of you, God wants to use all of us as examples to this world to show how GREAT & LOVING & ALL POWERFUL He is. So when things occur in our lives no matter what age you are, be certain that He wants to use you as the perfect example of how God forgives and redeems us from our past. Being the perfect example is simply being who God created you to be. No matter what mess ups you have committed, God uses our MESS ups to be apart of our great MESSAGE. So do not be ashamed of them because we are redeemed!!
If you have any comments or questions please leave them in the comments or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Photo credits: CANDYCE D. I TOOK THAT PICTURE A FEW WEEKS AGO OUTSIDE AT THE MILLER OUTDOOR THEATRE.
‘TIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES!!!!!!!!!!